"Strings and Positiveness"

It was a great evening listening to the songs of the famous pakistani band "Strings".The ride to CET( college of engeeniring & technology) was a nice and comfortable one thanks to Durez's scooty:) chandaka forests, udaygiri, khandagiri were some good sights that came in between our journey to CET.. I had a chance to roam around the campus as the band has forgotten their drum and somehow trying to adjust with a local drum..The show finally started at 9:30pm ( although the scheduled time was 7 pm)..The Indian stretchable time was proved right again :)

Now here i noticed something which i would definitely like to share with u all..

Initially i was sitting in a place where the public was not very happy with the performance(i dont know why) and they were enjoing giving all types of slangs ( Orissa style :)) they were rebuking the singer to the extreme... Now i could see the other end of the crowd who were enjoying the songs by waving hands, dancing along... standing there after seeing the contrasting crowds, i was trying to map the scenario with the way different people view their lifes...The same situation is taken by different people differently..one sees the positive side of it and the other one , the negative..Its like whether the glass is half full or half empty...
Another feeling i had was that company(sangati) plays an important role in the life of the person..When i was with the crowd who was having negative feelings, i too had a feeling that probably the band is not performing well., the sound system is too bad n 100 such things were coming to my mind and i was not able to enjoy it....but as soon i went to the other end of the crowd, everything started seeming perfect..i could see people enjoying, dancing, waving hands.. i too was tempted into the act and i started loving it...i started singing along and i was feeling great :)
what one can make out from this is that,one should always try to have a good company..
if u move along with positive and optimistic people , positiveness will come to u and viceversa..u might have heard of the apple and the basket story...
What i also want to say is tht one should always try to look at the positive aspect of everything...See!! No human being is perfect..My mom says that one should always try to look at the positive things about a person and not the bad ones..becoz what u will look is what u will ingrain in urself..if u look for good things , u will imbibe the good things of others into ur life as well and ur life will become beautiful and u will become a good person.. again if u look at the positives of the person, u will never had an ill feeling towards the others..
Its your life and ita all on you , How u wanna spend it...I agreee with the quote tht " Its 10% of what actually happens to you and 90 % of how u react to it"
Lets all react in a positive way and make this world a nice and positive place to live :)
Jai hind !!!

Corruption and Rang de Basanti

I saw the Poll of TOI yesterday and around 75 % percent feels that corruption is the biggest menace india is facing today.. corruption has become so rampant nowadays that people has accepted it as a part and parcel of life..In the movie "Rang de basanti", we could see that initially everybody felt that nothing can be done ...
I know this is big problem and there is no easy solution to it.. but we cant keep quiet and let it happen.. we the young generation has to take the lead to curb this.. i am not subscribing to what the rang de basanti team did..i respect their sentiments and concern for the country.. but i have always been a follower of Gandhiji's ideology of truth and non violence.. i mean we got independence not becoz of violence but becoz of non-violence..
it is rightly said that "A smile can make everything straight" ..
what i meann to say is that we have take the another route..
i always pondered about how to fight corruption and have come up with some pointers that may help reduce it ..
First of all, education is a must and as one can see the most illiterate states like Bihar, UP are the most corrupted..I believe that knowledge is power and this power will make the people aware of their rights, what is right or wrong..
Secondly, media( the fourth estate) has to play a major role.. it is nice to see that it has been doing a commendable job and the unearthing of various scams is prove of it... my only request to the mediapersons is that dont select news only on the basis of TRP ratings it will fetch but as a responsible citizen of India...
Thirdly, technology has changed the look of the world .. and i feel technology can be used asa major weapon to curb corruption.. and i am happy that many people have done it like ITC e-choupal and many more.. Also the right to information bill has been passed in which technology is playing a major role..
Finally i believe that encouraging competition in the economy will help a great way..we can see it in the field of Telecom and many more..
I really liked the dialogues of the film which said " No country is perfect and it ours duty to make it better by enrolling ourselves in IAS, IPS, etc.." i am really going to play my role in doing my some bit and i believe that if everybody feels the same way and ready to do their some bit then we can really make a difference..I hope such movies will make the people realise the graveness of the situation and to forget the "chalta hai " attitude.
I can tell you that for the dream India 2020 of APJ Abdul kalam to realise , we really have to do sth about this demon....
I LOVE MY COUNTRY VERY MUCH AND I WILL DO MY BIT AND REQUEST ALL FELLOW INDIANS TO DO THEIR BIT, TO MAKE SURE THAT OUR COUNTRY ACHIEVES THE DREAM.
Jai Hind!!!

What's the most valued thing today ?

I went to meet IBHA madam today and during our talk, she told me a very beautiful concept that i really liked and would definitely like to share with u all..Have u ever thought about the reason why Diamond, Gold are so costlier than other things..
Just becoz they are very rarely present..and if we see in todays context, what things have become rare? Then we can see that Love , affection, honesty,kindness, empathy has become rare in world nowadays. so applying the above funda, we can say that Love , affection, honesty,kindness, empathy are the most valued things nowadays and the person having all these is the most wealthy... and the the good thing about this wealth is tht it will never end..i mean the more u share , the more wealthier u become :)
i have always valued these more than anything in my life and i cud confidently say tht i am a very happy person and pray to GOD tht i always remain in such a happy state..I have seen some of my relatives who are very rich but they are not at all happy..i feel pity on them..what i could make out from this is tht money is not everything..It is jst a means..but i cud see ppl getting into the mad rush of earning money and forgetting to enjoy life..to love and be loved..
I like the quote " Happiness is not a destination but the journey itself " One should enjoy the whole process of reaching the destination..
I would like to say that lets value the most valued things that madam have pointed out and share it among ourselves so that it will get multipied many folds and each and every body will become rich and there will be no poor in this world....
Let takes a pledge today that we will remove the poverty from this world and play a active role in sharing our wealth to all ..
Jai Hind !!!

He did it :)

Today he proposed his lady love :) and she smiled :D ... this shows that she knew what all was going on in my friend's mind and was probably expecting this...
My friend called me up after that and told me tht he is feeling so nice and relaxed..he said me tht he thought of 100 bad things tht might happen but nothing of tht sort happened..although he was not a clear executor ( he babbled quite a lot before finally saying the 3 golden words " I LOVE U " :) ) and he told me tht "yaar main bahut kuch socha tha woh kuch bol nahin paaya".."i felt like i m in some other world and is duniyan ka koi hosh nahin tha mujhe".. i mean where he is standing n all.. he lost track of everything :)
what i feel is tht, since the girl smiled she has accepted him atleast as a good friend and me as an optimist would take it as a positive signal..why i feel like this becoz in case she had any other person in the mind or would not have seen my friend in tht way then she wud have definitely said the same to my frnd...
My hypothesis may be completely wrong as i believe in the saying tht " Woman is a mystery and understanding them is not easy " :)
My friend has gone to his home town now and will be returning back in a week's time.
In case i get any news from tht side i will surely update in my blog..
The story has taken an interesting turn now and i myself is quite curious about the result becoz first of all its connected to my best frnd and secondly, i have been lucky enuf to get a chance to unite a love which would have gone the drain as usual becoz of non communication from either side..also this story may set a good precedent of how important communication is in whatever we do and specially for amateur lovers who keep the feelings within themselves and never dare to express it.
Just think of a scenario( which happens more often )..suppose my friend would not have told his feelings to her.. then probably after some time they would have put into different projects and slowly the feelings would have died or suppressed . and whenever my frnd would have thought of the girl or wud have seen her with some other person, he would have felt tht " kaas main apni dil ki baatein isse bol deta to ho sakta hai ki she wud have been mine now " and a intense feeling of repentence for the inactivity would have surrounded him.. and this feeling will come whenver he come across her all thru life..What learning one shud take from here?? i think u ppl are mature enuf to understand what i wanna say and i have been saying repeatedly..on a lighter note i think this story may also help IBHA madam as it will make the communication classes quite intersting then :)
Wishing my best wishes to my frnd and his ladylove.. May God bless them with lots of LOVE
Jai hind !!!

I Love You

These 3 letters are something that everybody likes to hear but to tell u it is not easy to tell to a person u love..i will tell u about my frnd who happened to fall in love with a girl who works along with him..Now my frnd who is a real nice, honest, a person who can never backbite( such species have become very rare in this world now :) ) he has never been too close to a girl all thru his life although had some crushes in school and college life which he never expressed and the feelings died( as expected :) ) This guy is a very cheerful person and always keeps smiling,jst like me :D He has been in touch with this girl for around 2-3 months and they have been talking for long hours together almost everyday..The girl is beautiful and had many other frnds also.. now my friends is not GOD and he feels bad when she get calls from other frnds ( on new year day she got 20 calls :) when they were together ) there was some tension between them due to this but again its got back to normal..

Sometime we become too possessive about something and then the problem starts..i mean its ok yaar.. the person has her own frnd circle and what do u expect from a beautiful girl working in a mnc tht u will be her only frnd...its natural tht she will be having a lot of guy frnds..

Chalo ab kahani aage badhate hai... one day he calls me up and tell me everything about how is unable to focus on his work, how he always thinks about the girl, How he has become a serious person from the usual cheerful one..Infact now he is not able to behave normal with her..He asked me what to do ???

I said him jst tell her about the feelings u r having for her ..its always good in a relationship to express ur genuine felings to the person concerned...atleast this is what i have been doing off late...

then starts the series of questions some of them are really funny :)
have u ever done this?? how should i tell ?? should i directly tell " I love U" ??
how i do know her response?? Should i tell her in the morning or evening ? what will she think about me after i tell ?? I have to work with her on the project for quite a long..will it not hamper our relationship?? tell me exactly how u tell.. i will do the same way :) ??? and many many more..i could i now very well understand why the telecom companies are making Huge profits :D

and i have tried to answer each and every question in a very convincing way and he is like ok i will tell it now..should i :) and finally he says i m going to tell her today for sure and u know this has been happening for last 7 days :P and its not tht he is not making effort.. infact he was telling me tht he asked her to come to the top of the office building( a place they regularly visit) but cud not tell...
maine bola kyu nahin bol pa raha hai ??? to bola phatt jati hai yaar :))

Why is it so difficult to tell jst the 3 words ??

what i can make out is tht the fear of response.. we have a fear tht it will break the good relationship with the person( Ask me it never will )..or may be the fear of failure..fear of neglect from the person u love so much.. not able to talk and see the person u feel so good to be with..

u know i have got a way out of all this fears.. jst detach urself from the result and have no expectations..i have been the proponet of the philosophy " whetever GOD does there is sth good behind it " and this has proved many a times in my life.. as i see over the years there were many things in my life which on the spur of the moment i hated and felt sad about but eventually whatever happend it actually was good for me always..u might have heard the story of king who has his thumb cut..tht story will actually make the philosphy more acceptable.. i know its not easy and the pain will be thr for sure but it will relieve u quite a bit when the sense of Gratitude towards GOD for all the good tht he has done to us comes in us..I always feel tht i have been very lucky all thru my life.. i have the best mother i can ever imagine, sweet little brother, great friends and i have got a lot of love from them and i have given them in multiple of what i got too...so what if i dont get love from a girl whom i hardly know for around 2-3 months..i really feel sad about people who betray their parents for a girl whom they have hardly known for some days..
i cud the amount of selfles love in the eyes of my parents and i tell u i can die for it...

Sometimes i have seen tht people flirt and its very natural of our age group ...my only request to all is tht do flirt but do make sure tht the other person does not get hurt and its ur responsibility to make the person comfortable so tht he/she can cope up with the pain of it..

And My last suggestion is tht whenver u feel like saying I lOVE U say it .. i always feel good if sb say this to me with genuine feelings and i bet any sane person will love this 3 leter words told to them...
Lets Make this world a LOVE ly world :D

Orkut and Networking :D

Google has really revolutionised the world...the latest one i came in contact with is Orkut..its a really nice site.. u happen to find ur old friends with whom u have somehow lost contact and now u r in contact with them again thru orkut :)
i happen to find many of my seniors, frnds, juniors from my engg days nad it was a nice feeling to be in contact again. such type of sites shud be encouraged as it enhances the bonding, friendship among the users. friends share their views(testimonials), wishes n all..alos included is the birthday reminder.. whats a better gift for a birthday boy/girl other than a old frnd wishing a happy birthday :)
Apart from these,it will be of great help as it will enhance the networking with different people which may be of great help duing crisis situation. Being a student of social Network Management i would recommend that one should definitely join orkut
GROW UR NETWORK :D

My First Photo blog :)

 
 

Breaking Up !!!

"Breaking Up" A real nice movie to watch... brilliant performance by Russel crowe and salma hayek...the story is quite appropriate in present context...sometime we dont know what ur expectations from our partner are.. we love being with him/her but still not able to make out whether he/she is the right one .. u take so much time and ,in the meantime, it gets too late...

Anchal's Marriage :)

The long wait to meet my sisters was going to end soon... i was going to meet all of them on anchal's marraige. i was very much excited about it.. i also came to know that the no. of my bhanja , bhanjis have increased tremendously :) .. the journey started well as i got a junior (anup from UCE, burla) accompaning me till angul ...then my Big bother ( Tinku bhaiya ) took over. Good to see that he is well settled now with such a sweet bhabhi..Infact i am now reconsidering my idea of marrying a working women.. i mean the amount of love i could see in her for bhaiya, i doubt a working woman can provide...bhabhi ki Woh cute si smile dekh kar saari tension ghum ho jati hogi bhaiya ki.. also heard the good news tht i am becoming chacha soon :)
met bulbul , hadu chacha...remembered childhood memories when i went to bagadia( Bhua's place)..Then the trip to marriage place ( Madhapur) i.e. 150 kms from angul..there were 6 ppl in the commander ( me, bhaiya, bhabhi, hadu chacha, bulbul and Radha ).. i have got quite familiar with all..then started the Antakshari session which was highly dominated by the boys ( kudos to me and bhaiya) but not to forget the brave effort by the girls.. then we went to bhole baba ka mandir which was on the way.. the temple boast of 21 kunds of which many are hot water ( infact they were boiling ) , one which turns into milk automitically for 4 yrs anytime(jab upperwale ki marzi).. had a nice puja and finally reached destination ( madhapur)..
there i met all my sisters who have alraedy reached there.. they were looking so beautiful in saris( i have earlier seen them in suits )and the kids were simply great.. played with them quite a lot.. then went to jijajis place and met him and family...jijaji is very handsome and i got comfortable with him and his family very soon( Upperwale ne yeh achi quality di hai:)...then the series of traditions practices started which completed in the early next morning. met a lot of other relatives and made some new frnds... i was feeling great and wanted tht such moments never end..spoke some shayri and sang some songs in orchestra program..also danced a bit...
it was fun alltogether while coming also and the rest of stay in angul..saw bhaiya bhabhijis marriage CD which i missed as i was in mumbai..
i was really touched with the love i got from all .. it is true tht i also gave a lot of it and worked as hard as if my own's sister marraige and tried to keep everybody happy..but the words by sonam " bhaiya, aapke aane se jitna maja aaya utna kabhi kisi shaadi main nahi aaya" and bulbul " bhaiya aap pe bahut pyaar aa raha hai " and numerous such actually took away my heart.. bhagwan mujhe hamesha aisa hi rakhna..main hamesha pyaar baat-ta rahu aur batorta rahu.. mujh main kabhi bhi ghamand na aaye..aur sada tera saaya mere pe bana rahe.aur kuch nahin chahiya mujhe..
I LOVE U GOD :)

Satsang and Me :)

Finally with the grace of the almighty, the journey to satsang bhawan in ghatsila began and it was really a great experience chanting bhajans alongside the superb singer, my brother.. the good thing was that people really liked it and i too felt tremendous happiness and closeness to the GOD :)
also bhuaji and specially bhabhiji's were great.. me being a devar ate a lot of ghewar and gajar ka halwa .. the best part of the trip were the kids..so nice to be with them.. it feels really good to be in the company of kids and behave as a kid( old memories )... finally i m back to mamaji's home.. good to see nanaji and naniji well and nice to have their good wishes :) and the kids as usual not leaving me for a sec ..played a lot of games right from ludo, saap aur sidi, badminton,cricket..
it was my good luck that both the jijajis are also here so got a chance to have a chat with them..my sisters are really lucky.. will i be lucky :p
looking forward to back to home tommo and then anchal's marraige ...tht will again be fun..she was looking gorgeous in the sari... cud not believe to see my little sisters getting married.....
mera no. kab aayega :(

My Sweet Home

Gajar ka Halwa...My favourite.... Home food and Nice sleep ...I really crave for all this...Talking to family memebers and their love and affection really melts ones heart.. also the spiritaul feedback really increases the spiritual qoutient :)
Visiting mandirs, prasads, singing bhajans, attending raati jaga ....it really feel nice to be in alltogethr different set up than the usual of getting up late and rushing the classes...
evenings are again gr8 moving around the sbp city...following beautiful gals on bikes..playing cricket, cards(29)....and then dining the royal way :)
but the bad part is tht everybody sleeps early and me too have too :(
But all this is worth the love and affection and the real fun ...

I LOVE My SWEEt HOME :)

Xuberance 2006 - A success story

It could not have been better than this....Xuberance 2006 has been a total success..
It was the happiest moment of my XIMB life. everybody was congratulating and hugging each other. The atmosphere was quite energetic with ppl resorting to lifting each other in air, crowding for photo snaps :) and then the cake followed by the very XIMB's JLT.. It was total fun and masti..I was missing someone very special to me. with her it would have been more fun and masti 4 sure :)
LONG LIVE XIMB !!!!

Oppurtunities !!!

It is very important that we grab the Opportunities that come in our life becoz its really frustrating to repent on the lost Opportunity. I remember in my MNIT jaipur days i had an Opportunity to buy an Guitar which my senior was selling as his college days were on the verge of completion. I did not followed up and he sold it to an another person. Then the decision to buy a new one got delayed and Thank GOD I became an engineer. After joining XIMB again the old desire to be a Guitarist arose and got a Guitar on request from a friend but Thanks to the tight schedule it is still a dream. When I look back and think of the day my senior came to me and told about the sale.Have i bought the same, i m sure i wud have learnt a lot and who Knows i would have been the next joe satriani :) but becoz i cud not grab the opportunity my dream of becoming a Guitarist is still a DREAM. And its going to be tougher to realise it, day by day, as i enter into the Corporate life. Looking at the leverage i would have got being a singer i really really repent my losing of opportunity that day.
Infact many a times we loose good friends as we keep losing the opportunities to keep the relation alive . We keep losing opportunities in making relationships with some really nice people we met in our life.
It is only when we really need them that we repent our inaction or bad decision.
I have heard lots of stories wherein two lovers who love each other very much but just cud not express their feelings. they kept on losing the opportunities and one day one of them or one's family decides to marry the person with someone unknown about which one dunno much..
I was just talking to my friend and he was saying that he and his fiancee do keep talking on phone sometime..and one of the questions when his fiancee asked was tht do u have feelings for me? and My friend said very honestly NO.. i sort of rebuked him for such insensible behavior but his argument had a point.. he said how can i develop feelings with someone i have jst seen once during the engagement and talked may be couple of hours on PHONE.. it simply does not come..
I was comfortable of the concept of arranged marraiges to some extent but i sort of feeling uncomfortable with case studies like this.. I would say this is not a Marraige but a compromise. and i also believe that arranged marraiges of such type will not work anymore. if it works than i can say u r really lucky..
why i say this is becoz in earlier days men used to be sole bread winner and there was not much women empowerment and women had to make most of the compromises.so the concept although having a lot of loopholes worked somewhat. But in today's age where women is going along arm in arm with men it will be tough time for marraiges to work well unless there is a good amount of chemistry among the two.Both of them should understand each other well, love talking to each other, understand their likes and dislikes and shud be ready to compromise.There has to be a respect for the other person between them. In toto, they have to be good friends.
So looking at the repurcussions of lost opportunity, one should be always ready to grab the opportunity thats comes in one's life rather than repent all thru life about the same..

Failure Stories

Many a times it happens that looking at other people failure stories or even some of our owm bad experiences, we make a mindset that this is not for me.. and to tell u, its really very difficult to change this mindset once it sets in.
We come to hear a lot of love stories which have failed due to host of reasons primarily caste problems, ego clashes and many more. But does that mean one should stop "loving" ?? I believe Love is the "most precious gift" of GOD and i can say that the amount of happiness and positiveness it gives is worth making a TRY. I also believe that the satisfaction one would get in getting one's LOVE is worth the small compromises and sacrifices that one may need to make in the process.
i beleive that without LOVE the world will not be worth a place to live in.