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Saturday, February 04, 2006

" LOVE IS BLIND "

I always used to hear that "Love is blind " ...Pyar karte nahin hai, ho jata hai...people in love dont think from their head but from their heart...My friend i think is a case study which proves the above statements...He is one of my best friends and i could tell you that such nice souls are very rare in this world... i mean he was always there when i needed him and not only to me but to all...very honest, sacrificing... infact i am so impresed with him that i would have loved to have him as my brother in law... Now this nice chap happened to fall in love with a girl( love at first sight ) in the very first year of engineering.. My friend although being very sweet and honest was a little fat and was called upon as "motu" by all including the girl..he was actually very bulky ( 100 + )... He always wanted to stay close to the girl.. do all the help, she needed..in her projects, roaming around the new place i.e jaipur ( My friend was a localite ).. there developed a good friendship between the two..yeh kah sakte ho ki din bhar uthna, baithna, ghoomna, classes karna , everything they did together..
Now my friend was conscious about his being overwieght and started doing exercises, dieting and many such things and things worked in his favour as he was able to reduce his weight considerably.. but since his name has been set as "motu" so people do contniued saying him the same ( he always get hurt when somebody used to tell him the same especially in front of the girl ).. Now the feelings in him about her started growing day by day..and the closed friend circle came to know about his feelings and started teasing him on her..and to tell u he loved them although on the face value he always rejected them... but when somebody try to put her name with someone else he was the first one to react...The girl may or may not be knowing of the intense feelings my friend had for her...
my friend who has been a very shy guy ( like me :) in my earlier days and to an extent now too ) was never able to express his feelings to her..his condition was getting pathetic as days were passing by...he used to dream about her day and night ...in the dreams he used to picturise her as his wife and they spending a happy married life...
The love was already 3 yrs old now.. i could say that for a person in love , 3 yrs is a big big time..i somehow convinced him to propose her ( I have always been doing that :) ) and after much of pressure from me and his inner desire.. he somehow took her to Mcdonalds and conveyed his feelings to her...U can call it a bias or whatever, but i was always sure that she will be very happy to hear the same from such a nice and caring person..but to my dismay, things did not worked out.she infact rebuked my friend and said that she never thought of him in that way...its ok yaar, she has her own life and her own perceptions and she has the right to decide what she wants.. but the only thing i felt bad about her was the way she tackled it.. i mean a person is so much in love with u for more than 3 years and i still doubt that she did not had any inkling of it.. she never stopped him doing that...may be she was enjoying it...many people like flirting around..i do not oppose flirting.. it is fun.. but if u see that the person is good friend of urs and very honest , caring.. then u must stop doing it... it can actually hurt the other person very badly..and it actually did..
It was like hell broke on my friend but thank GOD that he gave him the courage to stand the pain of that... i mean when i think of his situation( 3 yrs of true love and suddenly nothing is there , ur true love does not recognise u ), it sends shivers down my spine.." Bhagwan jab dukh deta hai to usko sahne ki bhi sakti deta hai " ...
Yeh story yaha khatm nahin hoti hai...To his bad luck.. the girl got selected in the
same company in the campus placements... i could see the hope in him still now that she may come back...he still loves being teased on her...he wants to divert his feelings and thought process by indulging into other things.. but her sight bring back the memories of all the moments they spent together and it hurts him deep inside...I always pray to GOD that some good girl come into his life and she inundate his life with her love so much that all these feelings which keeps hurting him get washed away...

"LOVE IS BLIND"

P.S. This is what i have percieved from the interactions i had with my friend and what i could feel .. They may be biasing and wrong judgements from my side and i apologise for that..But i have been genuine from my side ..

2 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

here are some questions for Aanad ?
(1)Can you say what happens in first sight is luv or can luv happen at first sight ?
(2) How to distingush between attraction and luv ?
(3) Isnt luv at first sight is nothing but luv to an illusion ? You had some picture of a gal and u fall in luv wid that person without even knowing if she has got that ...dont u luv ur self created illusion of that eprson which may not be her ?
(4)Why luv will hav to be without a reason ? why it has to b blind ?
(5) and last what is all Luv atall ?
waiting teh answers in ur next blog

Sunday, February 05, 2006 7:11:00 AM  
Blogger Anand Jalan said...

The Questions put by Mr. anonymous are ones i myself have been pondering about quite a lot..i might not be able to answer ur queries as there is no fixed answer to these but yes, i will definitely share my views and what i feel about the same in my next blogs..
I would also love to have the answers on the same from all my blog readers...waise from the depth of questions, i have a feeling that Mr. anonymous has don quite a reasearch on the same.. ur views on the same will be highly appreciated :)

Sunday, February 05, 2006 12:59:00 PM  

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